Saturday, May 15, 2010
Go to Your Room - Shari Steelsmith
The subtitle of this book is "Consequences that Teach," and there is so much I like about that.
There is no doubt that I am a bigger supporter of consequence systems that reward ones. I don't believe kids should be rewarded for expected behavior. Now, if they're learning something new, rewards are useful in the short-term.
And I like consequences that are logical. That's what this book is about. It talks about natural consequences some...those results of your actions that just happen. But focuses on logical consequences as implemented by a parent or caregiver. Consequences that fit the misdeed. Consequences that make sense with the offense and aren't just random.
The majority of the book is very practical as well. It lists behaviors and several logical consequences that could be implemented. I like that it gives more than one option because if there's one thing I've learned with just two kids is that not everything (okay, almost nothing) works for both of them. They are completely different little personalities with motivations to match.
Now, sometimes I thought the consequence's suggested length was too short, especially for ongoing behavior issues. Still, I feel the book was a good resource and got my wheels turning about what would work with the girls.