Okay, completely not a fan of this book. Now, I have to be honest and say I didn’t really read it. I more just scanned it. Even the title kind of turned me off. Just because you love someone doesn’t mean that you are automatically going to love the people attached to them. Yes, you need to act lovingly towards them. But you won’t necessarily love them right off the bat.
But that’s not my main beef with this book. It is completely kid-centric. Do whatever you can and need to in order to make the kids’ lives easier. They have been through a lot (granted – they have. I was a kid of divorce too) and need understanding and coddling. I just can’t buy into that. They do need understanding. But they also need guidance and rules and stability. After all, doesn’t the Bible teach that if you love your children you will discipline them? How is this different for your step-kids
This book is a bit too far off center for me. I believe that the focus needs to be on your marriage…that’s why you’re there in the first place. And then the kids come after that. Also, in all of that, you need to be careful to not lose yourself.